So I was talking to a coach of mine yesterday. I am really blessed to have so many of them. She works for a personal development company. We got to talking about our fathers, because that's what you do when you are assisting at a personal development company, and I asked her what is the inauthenticity for which she has not been taking responsibility in the relationship with her father — because that's the way we talk at personal development companies. She saw something for herself, and promised to be in communication with him on Friday.
I suggested that she should get together with him right away, tonight (which was last night), and share and have a beer with him. She mentioned that he lives two hours away. I told her I'd get her most of the way there, or they could meet at a midpoint, say Haifa. She mentioned work tomorrow (now today) and I suggested that she just be ready to call in drunk. Even better, she could talk to her boss and ask permission to go for a beer or a pitcher, or two, with her dad, and perhaps roll in a few hours later the next day.
Now while I wouldn't advocate this as a daily practice, it occurred to me that life occurs now; sometimes tomorrow is just too late. Sometimes we just want to share our love and a laugh with the people who are closest to us. Sometimes that occurs to us at the most wildly inappropriate times. But if we don't take a break from “life” to live our lives, then what the heck is life for?
In this case, I mean really, she works for a personal development company that promises people living transformed lives. If I were her boss, and she called in drunk saying she just had to transform her relationship with her dad, I think I'd have to give her a pass. Having relationships in her life work would certainly make her more powerful at her job. I mean that's what her job is about.
Now this isn't to say that we should not be responsible in our lives. Rather, when we find ourselves called to certain actions, we should not put them off as lightly as we are accustomed to do. Life happens now, not at some time in the future. Sometimes it's just appropriate to seize on that which presents itself.
And if you are the “boss” reading this and wondering about the loss of control and order, I'd say those things were likely illusory anyway. People call in sick and we sometimes know damned well they are just strung out or hung over. If we give our employees the space to call in drunk — in other words, actually tell the truth — they might just find the truth serves them in other parts of their jobs as well.